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• By Steve on 02/10 10:56 AM

  Wow PAT. That is a very mature response for attacking my grammer. I don't get paid to leave my opinion here, so I could careless if I mispell a word or miss a coma. Just making a point that its people like YOU who scare others into the laws that now govern sex offenders. I see everyday men and women who cant even visit their own kids, but arent a risk to them. By all means do i agree that the man who hurt that little girl in your family deserves whatever he gets. There is no excuse ever for what he has done! But for the others who were just young and was with a girlfriend..those are the ones I agrue for, not for the ones who offend children or rape. I work with them yes. I sympathize with the ones who have to live the same way as a child molestor would, when they shouldnt. I work with people who have molested children and the stories are never pretty, but I must still work with them and keep an open mind. No one knows why someone would just molest an 8 year old out of the blue. Some have had very abusive childhoods. But, it still does not excuse what they have done. I see the statistics everyday and see who gets taken back to prison and makes it out of therapy well. I know some can not help throwing something out there cause of their personal happenings in their lives, but it is that which causes these laws to become so harsh and unrelenting. North Carolina has til the end of 2009 to make a tier system. This is by federal law or else the state will lose grants. Thats when they will determine whether the offender is high, moderate, or low risk. Thats when the system will be fair and you can see the ones you need to look out for. Again, I am sorry for your the pain your family must endure. Maybe I came off the wrong way, if so I am sorry. My main goal is to educate people and put down the rumors, not to begin fights.

• By upset on 02/09 06:34 PM

  pat thank u for the positive response and i am truly sorry for ure daughter and her child. i can understand why u r angry. my view as for child molesters they should never see daylight again. anyone who can hurt a innocent child is sick and cannot b trusted ever in society. what makes me so angry is the fact that my bf is on the registry with sick child molesters and unless u know him and the situation no one knows the difference and it stinks. once again i am truly sorry for ure situation there is no excuse for that behavior and 2 me it is no different than murder. he has done damage to that poor child that in not repairable and that is truly sad. and i dont feel like he needs to b on the registry he deserves 2 be in a cell FOR LIFE!!!

• By Pat on 02/09 11:58 AM

  By upset////I am very sorry that I offended you bc I din't mean it that way at all. I was not judging u or ur bf. I said what I did bc My daughter married a man, thought she knew him well and 7 years later he molested her very young daughter. I am glad u have checked things out and wish u and ur bf the best. Her bf had never been charged and is still not bc the child is so young he molested but if I could get him on the lists I would not care if he stayed on it until eternity. I do agree it can be tough on those that don't need to be on it, but there are a lot that need to be there that aren't. The same goes for prison I am sure there are lot there that shouldn't be. That is fact! Once again was only saying be careful everyone bc the one person u trust sometimes is not always who u think they are. We adults can be as trusting as little kids sometimes when we fall in love. Again I wish u the best and hope u have found ur soul mate, upset. I am not on here to offend or judge anyone but I know we have got to be informed in some way about sex offenders.

• By stef on 02/09 01:04 AM

  everybody needs to be on this website because we all need to understand each others views. not everybody is going to agree with everyone but to have a forum where people can have a civil discussion can at least be a start towards a better society. The registry is not perfect that is very evident. People rushed to put something into place and it is only going to be through trial and error that this registry will get fixed and the only way thats going to happen is by letting everybody's voice to be heard.

• By upset on 02/08 06:27 PM

  once again pat it is people like u that judge my bf that make me sick. i said i was 35 not 15 and i say this b/c u question if the charges my bf told me r the truth. unlike u i have done my research. would i be on here talking about my situation if i had not investaged the case and got all the fax. i am not stupid!!!! u really do not need 2 be on this sight until u get ure fax straight and do just a little research.

• By Nich'e on 02/08 01:02 PM

  The bottom line is anybody is capable of doing harm to a child we look at the person labeled as a sex offender but Mr.Woods for example the middle school gym teacher or Ms. Perry the Sunday school teacher. Does placing a "Scarlett A" on someone make the world any safer? You do the crime you do the time, end of story. If you repeat that particular crime then yes you should loose your freedom no questions asked. What about the "offenders" that were h a sex offense (for example by a vindictive girlfriend) and in which the charges were later drop but due to the "justice" system still had to do some time, probation and now is on the registry. How would you feel, to have to walk around for 10-30 years reporting your locsation for a crime you did not commit. The major that I have noticed with the general public and partially because of the news coverage is that when the description: sex offender is mentioned the coverage is of a pedophile. There are other types of offenders and not saying that one offense is greater than the other but people are very closed minded when it comes to this subject.

• By Pat on 02/08 02:08 AM

  Steve you sure are mighty bias yourself and very offensive. If you are working with sex offenders and have no better grammar than you have then we may really have things to worry about with the registry. Most of the registries I have seen has everyone labeled pretty well, as far as offenses and if they are repeat offenders or not. If 1% of the children are murdered that is too many. We should not have to see not one child die that way. I do agree the registry is full but shouldn't be so we need to do whatever it takes to put a stop to it. If the registry does not work and they all run together in your opinion, then why worry about the so-called innocent being on there. The registry is not going to stop them but maybe it will get the attention of the ones that aren't dangerous offenders so they can keep their name off and then we won't have to look so hard to find the dangerous guys in your eyes. DEFENDING SEX OFFENDERS IS NOT WHAT I CALL BEING EDUCATED AND LISTENING TO YOU DO THAT IS PROVIDING ME WITH A LOT MORE EDUCATION THAN I WANT. It does not say how many rape and kill because if you kill you become a murderer and not a sex offender. That sex offense will be thrown out in most cases, just as long as they get murder one.

• By Steve on 02/07 10:15 AM

  Sounds like its just a big circle. You will always have the people who are die hard, "I have seen a child molested and sex offenderds murder and repeat over and over and never get caught". and the other side," Register the ones who belong on there, and let the ones that dont have their life back. " To respond to a few comments above about molestors running around not being caught..yes that does happen, just like muderers can get away with it and theives. That can happen with any crime. I have seen a 65 year old male who molested over 50 kids get a 1-3 year plea, while a 19 with a 15 year old got a 3 to 7 sentence. This whole discussion is about the laws being imposed on sex offenders and the registry right? NOT ABOUT WHO ISNT BEING CAUGHT. They will be sooner or later and they will pay, and you can only pray, but the bottom line is the laws need to be fair, distinctive, but stern. Hard on the ones it needs to be! Then there weould be more avoidence of reoffending. ANSWER THIS.....ANYONE....Is it not a waste of money to be monitoring a million people who we know in our minds arent a treat instead or registering and working on either treating or keeping the dangerous ones out of society? As for PAT your quote, "So many kids are murdered by sex offenders and never get the chance to reach out for justice on their own." You need therapy..cause I work with sex offenders personally and your the one who needs to be educated. Want to prove me wrong, do some research and show me where it says how many sex offenders rape and kill their victims....It may be like.....1 percent out of millions...and those are the predatory pedopihiles 99 percent of the time too. Open mouth and insert foot. When you fling around an opinion like that which you cant back up, keep it to yourself. You only look like a paranoid whos uneducated. If society is going to change and make this a safer country for everyone, the people need to be less bias, and stop the witch hunt. They need to start concentrating on the ones they need to and stop wasting their time on the rest. THEN the dangerous ones wont be able to hide amoung the millions. Try it..go through the registry and see....theres so many that they all, after a while, blend together..the very dangerous ones arent highlighted. You cant remember every faces,so how can you watch out for them to protect your kids, but if you take out the many that done belong, then you see the truth and the ones you NEED to see and watch out for. Thats when the registry will work.

• By Keith Richard Radford Jr on 02/07 04:03 AM

  The Difference is that this regestery is wrong from the gate! look up Brown Eyes Blue Eyes, and the study done which was ignored when setting up good banks bad banks and this trash being structured as a internet regestry. Segragation anyone! Lets make ourselves weeker each day not knowing how to react to any reference to sex. For what reason? So people who are doing wrong can hide behind the law. Multiple layers of internet service so some can run under the raidar and as long as we bow to the pron king we can log on? People wake up.

• By Stef on 02/06 11:29 AM

  once again what were trying to say is not to get rid of the registration but to not label all sex offender as the same because there not. Most sex offenders are not child molesters. There is a distinction between predator or not but the registration should only include those who have actually harmed a child. Oregon has such a registry where only the predators are listed on the website for the public to see. Other sex offenders are still registered with the state but just not on the website for everyone to see. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE!!!!!

• By Pat on 02/05 11:48 PM

  to by upset: Hopefully you know your bf is only guilty of the crime he claims bc some sex offenders could lie to anyone if it does not really state their real charge. Child molesters are not going to say I molested a child before to their mate if they think they can keep it from them. A CHILD MOLESTER COULD BE YOUR CHILDS TEACHER, COACH, PASTOR, OR YOUR SPOUSE SO GET REAL FOLKS AND UNDERSTAND WHY WE NEED TO KNOW. I am sorry to offend people but we have to protect our children and if someone molest a member of my family they are not getting too much to have the name sex offender for 30 years and if yours are molested I think most of you would feel the same way. So many kids are murdered by sex offenders and never get the chance to reach out for justice on their own. Should we start saying we can rehabiltate murderers bc I am sure some of them could get out of prison and never murder again, but plain and simple we don't give them a second chance. We need to be telling our kids to look at the past examples in history and think before they jump in the back seat with their gf and get charged. EDUCATE THE KIDS IT IS WRONG JUST LIKE ANY OTHER CRIME. They know if they take a gun to school it is a felony but some still do and have to pay. I do agree some sex offenses are not as bad as others but an offender is an offender and it is better to be safe than sorry. Every sex offender list I look at tells if a person has committed the crime more than once and if it is 1st degree or to what degree so I think some people are freaking out over nothing here. No matter what the crime most of us know or should know the consequences before we committ it. Most of the children that get molested are done so by a repeat offender, check the daily news, so our present system is not helping anyway. They are being molested in school, church, home and many places most of you are complaining they can't or aren't aloud to go so please tell me who is suffering from these laws. It does not look like most sex offenders are paying too much with their lives to me. One thing thats fair is to educate our teenagers that if they don't want to be a sex offender to keep it where it belongs if they don;t want the risks of being accused of a crime. I still think most sex offenders are lucky to be free period and need to stop whining because they can't go certain places. Call me an idiot if you want but this forum is to state opinions and this is my opinion because I HAVE SEEN CHILD MOLESTATION FIRST HAND AND absolutely nothing was done to the offender and he is out there to offend again.

• By Stef on 02/05 09:45 PM

  We can only hope and pray for real change and hopefully Obama's the answer. Prohibition is one example of where we went overboard and finally made our way back to whats fair. The people will realize one day and make a moderate move to whats only fair.

• By steven on 02/05 08:02 PM

  To by upset: I think you are so right and hit it on the head. They never tell the truth about the real re-offend rate, which is lower than almost every other offense except for murder. If I look through the registry and see who has to register, I would say 65 percent are the statutory types. It can happen when your 18 and now be 35 and have never committed another crime, even possibly raised you own kids the whole time, and still no one believes in a second chance for people to live normal. It is a sad fact that our Government and the States have found away around the constitution, by their million amendments for sex offenders and totally cut up the double jeopardy clause. You done your time, then that should be it. For get it...its a life sentence for sex offenders..whether the get free or not. Some states like NH out sex offender right on your drivers license. Don't tell me that wont draw massive discrimination from the law enforcement side if you get pulled over. It doesn't say you crime, just that your a registered sex offender. Get caught driving by a school or playground for some reason you spaced out and your looking at an automatic felony charge. They are behind close doors setting up laws to put sex offenders back in prison in any way they can. Why else would you set up a felony charge for that? That's so BS.

• By Keith Richard Radford Jr on 02/04 03:31 PM

  You have not gota a leg to stand on and your attack on the constitution is transparent, When worthless individuals who feel the need to govern without knowledge, being lead by people with no care for humanity band together and create a housing problem, fuel shortages, and credit crisis like pelages on people. People who are still blind to the facts these smoke screens and manipulations are the product of decades of actions bringing a nation to its ruin believing there is some magical meaning to the words sex offender. This beast that can not be stopped but by scorched earth so they can hide all that has been done to them in the name of punishment for their sins when the real sin is the drunken mob collecting our money while promising something without a test drive that has caught up with them. They have found out again that people change day to day and anyone can offend or not. What I find offensive is they knew and put the American people through all this anyway for the life of leisure and wealth well knowing they well have to face the music someday. Facing up is not how they what to play it out. Facing up to the fact that sex offenders change just does not set well with people who what to believe a lie.

• By upset on 02/04 11:51 AM

  i am 35 years old and having a baby with my bf who is 30. at the age of 18 he was charged bc he had sex with his 16 yr. old gf. mom loved him but as all teenagers break up back tog. mom was tired of all the drama so she went to the police department and pressed charges next day mom felt bad went to drop charges and guess what toooooooo bad the state picked them up. he was charged and now is a registered sex offender. how fair 2 our unborn child he will not be able to attend school functions w/o being escorted nor will he be able to take our child to daycare. ooooh did i mention that i have 2 sell my home b/c there is a daycare across the street. how fair our the laws. there needs to be a classification. i used to feel the same about sex offenders until u meet someone and u realize there is a diff. b/c most people think of sex offenders as child molesters. people should research b4 they judge. ITS UNFAIR TO BE PLACED IN THE SAME CATEGORY AS A CHILD MOLESTER. people r 2 quick 2 judge when they have never been in a situation. hey im 35 and ive learned never judge someone unless u have walked in those shoes.

• By Pat on 02/04 11:35 AM

  Everyone has an opinion, but we do need to fix the laws. If someone molests a young child under 12 I am not so sure they can be helped. They need to be put away. They don't deserve to roam the streets and for those that may be innocent and charged because someone judged wrong it is sad but life isn't always fair, a reasonable doubt can put you away for life so don't give reason for a reasonable doubt. I really don't think anyone here is an idiot, this is just a very touchy subject for everyone. There is a thin line when it comes to judging teenagers and thier sexual encounters. That has to be fixed at home and hope it never gets to the courts. Now, rape is another story if it is brutal, so I guess looking at all above comments it all comes down to the fact that the laws in our land will never make all of us happy.

• By Steve on 02/04 11:11 AM

  I am sorry the was a typoo is the last one, i meant to say, " Stop blaming all sex offenders for what happens to you cause they arent the ones who offended you."

• By Steve on 02/04 11:08 AM

  This is to, "By a mom." Your way bias no offense. People that are 18 dont belong having sex with a 15 year old!?! Look at the world around us now! 15 year olds making pacts to get pregnant all together. The average pregnacy now is 14. You sit at health and human service and watch all these girls coming in pregnant. I have a 14 year old daughter and I would be pissed she got pregnant, but if I found out after the fact, I would support her in anyway I could. Your,by a mom, are living in a dream world. A 15 year old now is a Freshmen in highschool now can range between 14-16 and a senior can range 18-20. For how long, 20-30 years have people seen freshmen dating seniors? The US is a country in denial and with youth that have spun out of control and they need someone to blame..so lets go after the sex offenders. How about all these teenage girls who are sleeping you multiple people per week than the 20th person the slept with is 18 and they get pissed off at the an want them in jail so they press charges. Due to many laws you cant bring a girls past into play to show she has a history. At 18, you cant drink, but you can goto prison right? You can go war and choose to die for our country at 18...our laws our all messed up and dont make sense. I lost my virginity at 14 to a 20 year old. I KNEW EXACTLY WHAT I WAS DOING! I was molested when i was 8 by a male neighbor, but I don't play the victim my whole life! I get so pissed seeing these people that just want to bulldoze sex offenders and imprison castrate them all for any reason. You people that say that have a hidden agenda. You have personal issues yourself? Get them taken care of! Stop blaming others cause they are the ones who offended you! Thats what your treating them as. I agree some person is a predatory pedophile, steps should be taken in everyway to stop them. A person who offends again doesnt deserve anymore chances. A person who molest a child, I am not a judge, but with the right therapy should still be watched for a LONG time. For statatory cases..They dont deserve a life sentence. They shouldnt have to register their whole lives. Cant live near a school or playground? What is that a joke? They are actual the safest places! Get educate about what a sex offender is! WHO THEY ARE. This sex offender issue is way out of control, and its not helping with our youth spinning out of control with their sexual lives. Putting everyone in jail will not solve this issue. I just think its a train we cant stop. My opinion....your able to drive a vehicle and kill someone like a 16 year old girl just did in my town, you should have the right to say whether you can have sex or not. Now what will happen to that 9 year old boy she ran over? The girl will get a slap on the wrist and nothing will happen. She wont be thrown all over the internet and made to register, but dont sleep with her though, cause most states your looking at 15 years. I will rest my case cause I am just babbling. Sick of the stupid bias people that leave comments cause they have your own issues and cant deal with them.

• By Pat II on 02/04 10:38 AM

  Well its obvious that to whomever Johnny P is refering to that he is not articulate enough and/or man enough to point it out why someone is an idiot!

• By Pat on 02/03 11:15 PM

  Well Johnny P. I am the Pat on here that has added nothing since: By Pat on 01/24 01:07 AM and don't know the Pat after that. I am no idiot, can't answer for the other one, but if you are new and that is the only thing you have figured out then you must be the idiot.

• By Johnny P. on 02/03 04:26 PM

  I'm new here, but one thing I have figured out is... Pat IS an idiot !

• By pat II on 01/31 01:38 PM

  BTW the statement made above is from someone else whom just happen to have the same name as the other pat

• By Pat on 01/31 01:34 PM

  I don't understand this new law because according to NC the period of registration of those who registered before Dec of 08 can be on their for life but those who are registered thereafter can only be registered for a maximum of 30 years. Both are eligible to be taken off after 10 years. So doesn't this actually weaken the law? Also if a person gets taken off by NC does that also mean that they won't have to register if they move to another state?

• By Keith Richard Radford Jr on 01/30 11:39 AM

  The Domino effect of these laws are tearing the nation apart just like Jones town and I don't want to see the same results. Does Bobby Jindal? Little Bobby is a plant by a Republican agenda trying to figure out how to make dollars on the pain they created and feel a need to continue to sweep under the rug their mistakes on what they want to believe that just is not true. Sex Offender are not life long leper's unable to change their lives. Maybe these lummox's feels he can't do anything about his problem but most do not agree with these week excuses and know people on average really do love their family and have gotten past expecting their wife's to eat their placentas offering their children for sexual pleasure like the dark ages these thinking processes come from. Facts are facts and they were and still are wrong. Moving sex offenders out of homes, lives, jobs, have proven we are all connected, and cutting off your nose despite your face does make blood. Till these backward minded bloodletting booster and thieves get to see the last of the spending package go out the door we will not hear the last from these money grubbers. Sex offender can not pay their bills because they are baned from the work place so banks go south looking for help. Refused credit or even a home and this pushes up homelessness, vagrancy and crime created by a flawed system brought to you by these American terrorist in our own gov. Are you going to continue to listen to their lies or set aside their worthless policys. wite these guys and point out how change has come.

• By a friend on 01/30 05:54 AM

  What about the girls that are out partying and dressed like they older than they are and tell the men they are 18 and then after they sleep together and her dad finds out she yells he raped me.Even though the had sex and sleep in each others arms all night - he ends up doing time and on a list and the girl gets nothing- she needs to be on a list too. one mistake and it follows him for life.

• By Pat on 01/24 02:07 AM

  By A mom who has dealt with molestation ....right there with u....same opinion and have dealt with it and still dealing with it.

• By A mom who has dealt with molestation on 01/23 04:27 PM

  Try dealing with the aftermath of an eight year old that was molested, and see how cavalier your attitude will be. I do agree that the Romeo and Juliet types of cases are not in the same category, but an 18 year old has no business dating and having sex with a 15 year old. No excuses, even if I don't agree they should be labled as a sex offender. I found out later that the man that molested my daughter had had inappropriate contact with young adolescent girls before he put his filthy hands on my daughter; his family dismissed these allegations because he had a heavy drug addiction. I was outraged by their ignorance, but there are a lot of misconceptions about sexual abuse/assault. This discussion is very typical. I have no sympathy and we as a society need to do much better in educating and protecting our children from predators.

• By Fenrir_Lokison on 01/13 07:13 PM

  I do agree with a registry in SOME cases, i.e. the person is a repeat offender, the person set out with intent to rape, their was additional crimes committed in the act of the rape (like robbing the victim or intentionally causing extra physical harm), stuff like that. I think if there is consensual sex (yes I believe a minor can make a decision to have sex, especially if they are of an age where the understanding of what sex is and what it can do) with a relationship in mind or under seduction, then no a person should not be made to register on their first offense, we all make questionable if not down right illegal choices, it does not mean we should be labeled for the rest of our lives. This 30 year thing is wrong. Give a person a chance to prove they can change, not give them reason to continue in their behavior out anger and frustration.

• By If people knew the truth...huh? on 01/10 07:41 PM

  If people knew the whole truth about the women who have disposed of their husbands through coercive means in co~sponsor by police and community zealots flippantly using these laws to ignore criminal intent where Grand Theft has been the order of the decades past, their frenzy feeding has awakened them to the blood bath they have blindly created in response to Brown Vs. Lily showing the example related years ago concerning my scenario is real and valid. Theft from the cookie jar means the cookies will run out. You can not spend your way out of this and sweep it under the table when fundamentally the justice system is off balance at the core. Thanks to the recent ruling in favor of Lily, maybe some of this will turn around. Allowing these blood sucking women to hide their involvement, even when the involvement may have been when they were a child is not being responsible but who's asking for what? With a bit more greed we can all turn off the lights and go home.

• By marie davis on 01/06 02:48 PM

  no not nc. but wherever each case handled by jury maybe the only way. when a person has never been involved with the court system and is naive to think that politics isn't involved then their rights and the law gets bent. fear and the threats from a judge that may have motives that has nothing to do with justice can be a combination not easily solved. what we experienced was not only sad but distasteful to say the least. but because this happened to me and being on the front seat of this train wreck i can say with evidence. everything that is being done thus far is not it! no my husband was and isn't a sex offender but the law says he is. so i study up on what was a sex offender or the other legal terms they call them and i learned that most of the people that is scarred with this label now, did not have the past to be given such stiff sentencing. the ones that are actual victims what responsiblity did you play and making the child available ouch! i know how dare me. if i told my complete story then the question would be more exceptable. my 2 grandchildren were never sexually abused and the only man that treated them with love is in prison for? there mother well remorseful and still leave my grandchildren with whoever she can. if you think or concerned about a love one behavior around children talk to them and instead of treating the person like they are inocent how about taking the responsibility and make sure the person isn't harming no one. that is my opinoin in dealing with this. i raised 4 girls alone and has always watch others around them. so i am not naive about what happened and fully sure of what was going on in the bedroom. you people with children watch them and stop holding the public hostage in keeping them safe, they are your's! everyone knows that there are sick people in society, what opportunities are you providing them?

• By Pat on 01/05 03:07 AM

  marie davis ...story is sad but must not be in NC because it is not that easy here. Men get away with it way too much here.

• By marie davis on 01/04 06:23 PM

  i know a man in prison charged for aggravated sexual assault of 2 small children. the sad thing about it the charges should have been for exposure. one little girl pulled his pj down while he was putting the other child to bed. the little girl tells her mother she seen papa wewee (never came in contact of the child) a month later the step-papa was in a argument with the step-daughter she decides to tell him what her daughter tells her, he calls her bluff and goes to the sheriff office and tell them what happened and did not take into account it was election season and well politics wants to take sex offenders off the street, no he never had a criminal record and the little girl tells authority she was just trying to get papa to ride her on his leg before he put her to bed and yes authority called it a confession. he is serving 15 years go america

• By Keith Richard Radford Jr on 12/28 09:58 PM

  1788 in France a batch of fools and clergy ran a country into the ground telling the plublic that they new better and somehow were wrong having lost their heads over lies just like this one. Some would like to beleve the use of laws in this manner have some validity but they don't. Sex Offenders (so called by these idiot) like monsters in a movie built up by hype of a moral morjority using these laws have force people out of their homes, sold these homes to profit from their ill gotten gain and are crying now cause the money is running out. See just like France and many other countrys have found you just can not theve your way to wealth especialy when the class of individuals who are doing the steeling are steeling from their own countrys people. The facts are indisputable. My offence was now about 25 years ago and still creeps want to restrict internet access, so they can create some reason for disperity between classes. Look at these people who through pious thinking they are somehow better cause they do not have anyone who is willing to call them on their lies. Well I am here and calling you all liers and theves tettering on being clowns in habbit of looking down you noses at anyone not willing to bend to your think which is flawed and hurtfull. So anyone willing to beleve your tripe is dumb enough to allow a person to tell them they can never change. Un-exceptable and contrary to any healing, keeping a nation in its own vommet.

• By steven on 12/22 10:51 AM

  I believe with my own children and being on both sides on the fence, I have become very well educated. I agree that as many children as possible should be protected, but that sad thing about the registry is...is it not so much the ones on the list you need to worry about....the ones you need to worry about are the people who arent on there. The neighbors, relatives, maybe a teacher. Is there a good way to protect our children from the ones we can't? I just think people need to be educated better. The ones who make the rules are uneducated in the field of sex offenders and are running strictly on being scared of what they dont know. A true sex offender is not the drooling at the playgroung. If people do research, very few offend from a publlic place like a place ground. Playgrounds are actually very safe places cause most sex offendeds are passive aggressive and careful. Only the very dangerous and rapist would fall under the agressive not care who is looking. I will never justify or stick up for anyone that willfully harms a child. NH is now actually making a tier system where sex offenders can be removed off of the list if their offense deems it and they have some of the strongest rules for them. I believe some are young and dumb and dont understand, as many of us were in our teens, but I agree there is many that should not be forgotten or forgiven. Its sad but I just watched an 18 goto prison for a 15 year old and I warned him it wasnt worth it, but he loved her. I truly believe he does, but at 18 your not mature enough to buy beer....but mature enough for prison...there is no justice there. I hope everyone a happy holidays and be safe.

• By Pat on 12/14 01:03 PM

  I truly send my blessings to you Steve and hate to hear all you have had to indure and do hope things get easier for you. I agree with you our laws are very unfair and feel each case is different and should be treated that way, but unfortunately sex offenders aren't and it is so unfair. I think most sex cases are serious and should be tried by jury. It would be worth getting more opinions on all cases so each one could be treated accordily. I would like to let you know that if my daughter were 15 and someone had consensual sex and were 18 I would not consider them a sex offender bc I feel a girl of that age is capable of making her own choices, but the wrong ones. Statutory rape is wrong but I do agree it is another category from child sexual abuse and certainly should be treated so. Any child abuse should be considered a capitol offense and tried by jury. I bet you can feel that my concern there with your own children. We have to stop society from harming children. May God Bless you and your kids and hope you have a wonderful Christmas.

• By Steve on 12/14 10:16 AM

  It is interesting reading both sides of the fence. Even more when you have been there. I went to prison for 3-7 years cause my state has no statatory laws, just a straight felony charge, and I was blasted by the court. It was consensual, I was 18 and she was 15, but at that age I didnt know it was illegal. I went to prison at 22 due to delays and by then had two kids. After getting out, on parole, I won fully custody of my kids cause my ex lost them to the state. Now at 34, I have raised them and have a 9 month old, and all the states are making the rules you cant go where kids are, even if a court of law grants me custody of my kids after I was convicted. Being in prison, I have seen some offenders who have done horrible things. I have heard their stories and I believe in the registry, but I do believe also the country and states are going overboard. Yes, there are people who BELONG on there. I dont argue that, but why wont anyone steamline it to work, so that people can be informed and safe, but allow the lesser, who aren't a danger, try to fix their lives? To be in my place, no one will hire you. I have to Associate degrees not even having to do with any area of kids and I cant get a job, cause everyone does backround checks. So, how do I support my family for something I did so young and didnt even understand the consequences..funny thing...cant use a polygraph to keep you out of prison, but that State of NH uses it to keep sex offenders in. No one sees what happens ebhind the walls unless your there.

• By Pat on 12/11 12:41 PM

  Thank you Stitches77. I just hope all these people in defense of anyone that would offend never have a victim of a sex crime bc the victims are the ones that have the life sentence. Registering is not a sentence only a title, just like a burglar breaks in a home and gets caught whether he chooses to do it again he will always be a burglar even if he pays for his crime. Those that think DNA should be a factor in every sex crime is wrong bc it is wrong to touch any child in an inappropiate way or expose them to porn and that will leave no physical eveidence but it does damage the child emotionally forever. Incest is the worst bc most children living in that situation are scared and ashamed to come forward. Those men or women that are having sex with teenagers and don't want the title of sex offender should keep their pants on.

• By Stitches77 on 12/11 12:51 AM

  "Most of the sex offenders are out and about free with no shame, ABUSING LITTLE CHILDREN THAT ARE SCARED TO COME FORWARD." That's right Pat. The majority of sex crimes are never reported. Child molesters use grooming techniques on children, they also use intimidation and fear. When it's a loved one committing the abuse the child doesn't know what to do, they are in a dependent position. We need to support them and make sure they never have to see their offender again. And that includes in church or school.

• By zwoman on 12/11 12:47 AM

  One assault against a child and they need to be locked up forever. Joseph Duncan who went on to kidnap Dylan and Shasta Groene and ultimately murdered Dylan after killing their mother, brother and family friend had this to say about his sex offender status: "The truth is I am not an exception, I am the rule! Most sex offenders are just like me." Why give them another chance to victimize a child again? Or murder her mother for trying to protect her? We must protect our citizens.

• By Stitches77 on 12/11 12:44 AM

  Actually those DOJ statistics aren't accepted by anyone. That study was done over a period of 3 years and does not reflect true recidivism. Longer studies, specifically the one by Karl Hanson showed that 24% of sex offenders were reconvicted for a new sex crime within 15 years. Sarah Tofte of the Human Rights Watch agreed. Furthermore, the majority of victims know their offender, but that doesn't mean it is incest. Nor does it mean they are close to them. Sometimes it's a neighbor, a Little League coach, a teacher, a baby sitter, a friend of the family, the childs friends relatives etc. Knowing the offender in the majority of cases is proof that we need to be able to know who they are so we can avoid them. They definitely do not need to be around children.

• By freak on 12/10 02:00 PM

  @Melanie: What recidism rate are you talking about? Sex Offenders have the second lowest rate of re-offense. Murderers being the lowest to re-offend.. Not sure where you got you information from.. Check out the stat of Washington's report on the matter, http://www.wsipp.wa.gov/rptfiles/05-12-1203.pdf reports a 3 to 6 % reoffense rate. the Department of justice, http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/abstract/rsorp94.htm which shows a 5.3% rate So not sure what re-offense rate you are thinking of. the RSO re-offense rate would be considered negligible, or insignificant if not for the minority of groups saying SAVE THE CHILDREN.. When the people they are telling to do as are the ones that actually abuse kids 93% more than strangers... I am not defending incest abuse nor am I defending abuse by a stranger, both are very very wrong. However, I think the US needs to wake up and stop this idiot train in its tracks. Politicians and media are self feeding their own numbers, which are lies to get votes and to sell stories.

• By freak on 12/10 01:47 PM

  Pat, you're an idiot. Most Sex Offenders are on the registry for a non-violent crime, and 66% of them have never touched a child sexually. You need to do some research dude. The vast majority of sex offenders that DO harm children are FAMILY MEMBERS, or FRIENDS.. not the stranger danger that everyone is forced to believe. Do your research an find the truth.. And how is that again? hard to convict? Most 92% of all sex cases that make it to court are convictions. In most cases, they are not even based on evidence. There is no CSI sperm swab, not trace blood on sheets. It is 16 year old saying he got me drunk, he forced me.. when in fact it is 16 year old partying, then waking up regretful that she slept with the ugliest boy in class last night, or told dude she was 23 instead of 15.. GET A CLUE PAT... If not, you will continue to be an idiot.

• By Fred on 12/09 12:47 PM

  Shame on you North Carolina.Conformity with the federal Adam Walsh Act by stricter guidelines is all about the money the feds give out for conforming. Unfortunately,one time offenders who had an act of stupidity are caught in the same web as bonified predators and pedofiles. So 18 yr old having consensual sex with 16 yr old girlfriend is branded for life. The registry does nothing to protect children and elements of it including SORNA has been ruled unconstitutional by a Federal Judge in FL. NV and GA have cases pending.Our 18 year old who served his time and had to register once a year,now has to register twice and move every time a bus stop is changed.When sex offenders repeat only 5% of the time and drug dealers selling to sixth graders at the bus stop go free, where are our priorities. It might be politically safe for legislators, but it is flat out wrong for a civilized society.

• By melanie on 12/06 06:16 PM

  the way of the law is you do the crime, you do the time. The issues with recidism has made us change the rules for sex violations. Of course, this also catches 18 year olds caught having sex with their 16 year old gf/bf. Or other cases which may mean a law was violated but there was no moral outrage really involved. If we do not like the sentences handed down for sex crimes, then we need to change them. Maybe a child rapist should fall into the same category as a murderer, which more likely than not results in life in prison. To change the rules without respect for the law is not right. Besides that, I'd love to know if the legislature gave any money to these organizations to make sure these 30 year rules are funded so they can be upheld? I'm willing to bet the legislatures voted to approve the popular law but gave it no funding or teeth - after all, paying for something isn't popular, only demanding it.

• By Frank on 12/06 05:07 PM

  Don't do just love it when a woman wears a shirt with most of her boobs exposed, and then says something like, "my eyes are up here" to whatever male she is talking to. I love to snub those types of girls. It destroys their self esteem.

• By Kelly on 12/06 01:08 PM

  I agree with Pat, I have NO sympathy for sex offenders. Although, I feel that it is very unfortunate for 18-16 year old relationships that get charged with statutory rape. A variance should be developed for this type of charge. As for the other sick, cruel, and control freaks that take advantage of any boy, girl, man, or woman will never get any graces from me. It is an incurable disease, there is no antecdote or cure. This is backed up my much research. It is also absolutely irrelevent of what a person is wearing! It infuriates me that someone would even think: that a person "asks" to be abused! There have been cases tried: an athletic runner raped; her running shorts were a "temptation". The man was found GUILTY of rape. We have the right to wear what we want. Agreed, some styles may be too racey, but that entitles no one to assume and act on their presumptions; that because cleavage is showing, its out for the taking!

• By Pat on 12/04 11:32 PM

  Well it is like this a sex offense is like any other charge. There are people on death row that should not be there too, but they had a trial and were convicted. You will not wind up on the sex offenders list just bc someone calls you a sex offender you have to be charged, AND IT IS HARD TO GET SOMEONE CONVICTED OF A SEX OFFENSE. Most of the sex offenders are out and about free with no shame, ABUSING LITTLE CHILDREN THAT ARE SCARED TO COME FORWARD. Check the news, weekly, u see someone arrested for sex offenses against small kids or people with child porn. Its kind of like a young guy takes his first few drinks at a party and drives away and kills someone, well he is doomed for life. Then u have this guy that gets drunk every week or day even and gets on the road but manages to not get in an accident but does get caught and has to pay for the crime in a lesser way in his eyes but they are both guilty and knew better, which one are u going to have sympathy for? If he killed someone close to u certainly not the one time drinker that killed someone.I agree it is sad for a young guy's life to be ruined over sex with a slightly younger girl but if we have the law maybe they will know better and if he winds up with a child to support for 18 or so years he might rather choose being a sex offender. EVERYONE HAS TO BE TAUGHT TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS OR WE WOULD HAVE A MUCH MORE UNSAFE WORLD THAN IT ALREADY IS.

• By Doomsbury on 12/04 04:14 PM

  What about the poor slob who was railroaded back in 1989 when he was 18 and his girlfriend was 16? Just because her parents didn't approve, he now has to sell his house everytime the local school district adds a new bus stop. Even if the only student standing at it was his daughter. You also aren't including the dumb frat boys who streaked across the football field as a prank and are now permanently labelled "sex offenders". They really should stramline the laws so that only "predatory" sex offenders are limited.

• By Pat on 12/01 10:15 PM

  Also meant to say I have no sympathy for any of them. If they get to roam the streets after committing that crime they should have to work and pay for the victims counseling bc most of them get free counseling by the state and parents are left to pay for the victims. If you can't tell a girls age then you need to leave her alone until u find out how old she is.

• By Pat on 12/01 10:02 PM

  How am I to blame? For one my daughter does dress with respect, but that has nothing to do with someone taking sexual advantage of another person. Most of your sex offenders aren't even charged and on the registry so you have no idea what you are talking about. Not only men are sex offenders either, some women are too and bc some girls let it all hang out is no excuse, if so every woman in Hollywood would be abused. THINK OF ALL THE INNOCENT LITTLE CHILDREN THAT GET SEXUALLY ABUSED EVERYDAY and sometimes murdered by the offender. Being on the registry is not going to stop them either, they shouldn't be back out on the streets.

• By Chester on 12/01 09:42 PM

  Come on now Pat, how about a little sympathy. These are people who have committed a crime, and then paid for it. Besides, have you seen some of the high school girls walking around with their ho-ha and ta-tas hanging out? They're either 17 or 27 - who can tell? And it's parents like you who let them, and parents like you who are to blame.

• By Pat on 12/01 09:41 AM

  Once a sex offender always a sex offender, they should stay on the register for life, but guess 30 is better than 10 years.

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